Worry free living is achievable but I have always wondered, “How do you live worry free?” Have you ever found yourself in a position that looks so familiar? You know you have been here before and you ask yourself, “How in the world did I get back here?” I recently found myself in such a position. My immediate feeling was worry! You are in so much trouble!!! You need to be worried!
I made a choice a long time ago to always be responsible with my finances. I know how much money is coming in, how much I’ve spent and what account I have spent from. I also make it a point to always pay my bills in plenty of time. I decided to take a risk and start a small home-based business and being something new, I made some choices that I know I shouldn’t have made. This placed me a position where I was up to my ears in it but I still managed to do a good job until my capital source was brought to a screeching halt! When this happened I found myself in a state of panic because it meant that I wouldn’t be able to meet all my financial obligations and I had nowhere else to turn to prevent this from happening. I was worried out of my brain! It was the first thing that I thought about when I woke up and the last thing before I drifted off to sleep every night after plenty of tossing and turning! This situation was definitely stealing my joy!
I prayed to God to give me the wisdom to weather and get through this storm. Matthew 6:27 in the Amplified Bible says, “And who of you by worrying and being anxious can add one unit of measure (cubit) to his stature or to the span of his life?” This verse makes so much sense and though I understood what it meant, I had never really learnt how not to worry. Worrying wasn’t going to change my situation in anyway, all I was doing was running myself into a sick state of mind.
I always sync podcasts on my MP3 player, cellphone and tablet that I feel will help me with what I am struggling with and listen to them while I work or on my way to and from work. I downloaded a podcast by Joyce Meyer where she finally put it into a language where it made sense and I understood what worrying was all about. Worrying is our way of trying to stay in control of the situation when we should really be surrendering it. We want it our way and on our time and we don’t trust that God will give us what we want when we want it. Instead of trusting Him to do it His way which is always better than what we could ever envision for ourselves, we even come up with a plan B and C, just in case He doesn’t come through our way! What a revelation! We end up blocking God’s blessings by insisting on doing things our way and in the process we just end up making things worse for ourselves. Philippians 4:6-7 clearly states that we should not have any anxiety about anything, but that we should bring everything by prayer and petition (definite requests) with thanksgiving to Him. This leaves out nothing. There isn’t anything that we cannot ask Him. James 1: 5-7 says that if we lack faith we should ask Him, but we must do it in faith without wavering (hesitating or doubting) for if we waver, we should not expect to receive anything from Him. This has taught me that once I bring my request to Him, I have to leave it with Him and let Him work it out in the way and time that is best for me. It means that it will unfold His way and in His time! I might be uncomfortable while I wait but He will also help me find comfort in the discomfort. James 1:4 says that we should let endurance, steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work in us, so that we may be perfectly and fully developed lacking nothing. 2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but one of strength, love, discipline and self-control. We have the power to be patient and we have self-control to let go of trying to do things our own way.
As a child, we were taught to sing this song in Church and for some reason it started playing in my head:
Why worry when you can pray,
Trust Jesus He knows the way,
Don’t be a doubting Thomas,
Just lean upon His promise
Why worry, worry, worry, worry,
When you can pray?
We really cannot pray and worry. When we trust God, we have to let go of the fear and anxiety. God does not dwell where fear dwells which is why the Bible is filled with verses where He is always asking us not to give in to the fear. I have completely surrendered my situation to God and I have seen the difference in my life and situation. When I let go of the worry, I realized that I had alternatives that will not make my situation worse, but will help me continue to build my business. I have also learnt to be grateful in the bad situation. That bad situation has a way of turning things round into better situations than we could have ever imagined. There is no reason for us to worry when we can pray. I therefore choose to pray instead of worrying!